Okay, you've met a girl that you really like, you ask her out and she says yes, way to go! Now, in this situation you may not even be thinking about a second date because you're still completely stoked by the fact that you have the first date penciled into your day planner. Be careful. The easiest way to ensure you won't get a second date is if you botch the first date. Sometimes a first date is all you want after going out with a girl, but for the purpose of this blog we'll go on the premise that she's amazing and is everything you want in a woman. A first impression may be the only impression you have the opportunity to make. It will be the foundation of a person's opinions and feelings about you just as the first date will be the foundation of any potential relationship. You may only get one shot so make it count gentlemen.
The first date is crucial, so everything you do on the first date will be just as significant. The worst thing you can do on a first date is take her to do something that limits your ability to get to know each other. A movie can be a good date... on the third or fourth date. In order for us to want to go out with you again, we need the opportunity to get to know you. You can't talk in a movie theater. Dinner is always a good choice, unless of course she doesn't eat, in which case I'd highly recommend dating someone else. Dinner conversation can be an excellent way to learn about each other. You don't even have to take us out to an expensive restaurant. If you can cook, what better way to impress your date than to show off your culinary skills? A man that can cook is attractive; a man that cooks for us is even better. Cooking dinner together can be an award winning date. You really get to know someone when you're cooking in the kitchen together, and you have a lot of fun.
Doing your homework before your first date can be a sure fire way of guaranteeing a good time. If you can find out what some of her interests are you can plan a date that can't fail, unless there just isn't any chemistry between the two of you. (If this is the case I can't really help you, sorry!) If your date likes astronomy, take her stargazing. If you and your date have some of the same interests its a good idea to start there. That way you're both sure to enjoy the date. If you're both into sports take her to a baseball game or go play tennis or sand volleyball together. A thoughtful and creative first date will lead to a second date 99% of the time.
The worst thing you can do on a first date is to show up without a plan. Make sure that when you pick your date up you know exactly what you're going to be doing that evening. It looks really bad to sit in the drive way asking the girl to come up with the game plan for the night. An exception to this would be to come up with a couple different options for the evening and let her choose. Just make sure you've put thought into the date, she'll be able to tell.
The girl you're taking out is going to be paying attention to even the smallest detail of your date. It's going to make a difference if you open her doors for her or if you make her open them herself. Women are all very capable of opening our own doors but when a man opens our door for us it shows that he has a level of respect for us. Go to the door to get her, never, I repeat, never call her from your car and expect her to come out. If you don't respect her or care enough to get out of your car and go to the door, then you have no business taking her out. Open her car door when she gets in and if you're looking to really show the gentleman in you, open it when she gets out. Some girls won't wait for a guy to open the door so they can get out of the car so you need to either be very quick or you need to let her know that you expect the chance to be a gentleman. This applies to all doors. Some girls won't go out again with a guy that doesn't open doors for her. Remember, we want to be respected.
So, you've reached the end of your first date with this amazing girl and you're dieing to take her out again. Be careful. You can screw up a good thing at the very end. When you take your date home, don't pull up to the house and drop her off. Walk her to her door. Like I said, your date will be paying attention to every detail. We as women tend to file away every little thing about a date to our memory and spend hours mulling over it trying to figure out what each comment, gesture, and touch really meant.
If you take the time to plan a first date that is fun and creative and show her the respect she deserves, I can promise you that landing that second date shouldn't be a problem for you.
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